Purity Culture Interview With Challenging Opinions

Good morning everyone!
The interview I did with Challenging Opinions on purity culture is now live. My husband woke me up rather excitedly to tell me it was awesome, so there is that. 😉

In all seriousness, my host was absolutely phenomenal with the questions he asked, some of which were a little tricky. I invite everyone to listen below! Part two will be available next week on Monday.

Listen Here!

The Scarlet Virgins Book Cover and Website Unveiling

The Scarlet Virgins: When Sex Replaces Salvation

I am thrilled to announce that the website to accompany my upcoming book (The Scarlet Virgins) is now live through the tremendous and dedicated efforts of my wonderful husband, Thomas Lemke. The link can be found here: The Scarlet Virgins

On the website, you can expect to find five podcast episodes meant to supplement my book (with more to come on the 27th). One podcast that I think homeschooling parents and youth would be interested in is “Everything Wrong With I Kissed Dating Goodbye”, just as an example.

You can find the synopsis of the book on the “about” page and if you are so inclined, you can book me to come speak at your church or Christian school on the topics listed on the speaking page.

The most important feature of the website is the little button on the front page that says “Buy Here”. Because the book has not yet launched (we are looking at the 31st of May or the 1st of June as a release date), you can sign up for the Scarlet Virgins email list to be notified so you don’t miss it when it is released by clicking that button.

Oh, and lest I forget, today is also the official release date for the book cover! ❤
The Scarlet Virgins Book Cover

Happy mother’s day to all the mothers out there, including my amazing, supportive and patient mother.

Join The Scarlet Virgins Launch Team!

Hey there!

I’ve been a little quiet recently and there is a reason for that. My book, The Scarlet Virgins, has been taking most of my time with shaping, editing, and booking podcasts to raise awareness for the topics I discuss.

Now the time has come for me to get my booty in gear and set up a launch team for the book and I need you! Want to know what it is about? Here is the synopsis:

“Spit-in water.”

“De-petaled flower.”

“A chewed up piece of gum.”

These cringe-worthy phrases from Christian purity culture engrained themselves in the minds of the impressionable youth of my generation. Fearing the destruction of their children’s bodies and souls as the world around them became caught up in pushing a progressive sexual agenda, our parents and thought leaders rose up and sought to fight back against the lewdness and promiscuity surrounding us.

Unfortunately, their approach was entangled with fear and pain, going so far as to criminalize all forms of affection. This bore fruit of unprecedented physical, mental, and spiritual consequences as our worth and identity were found in what we did and didn’t do sexually, not in Christ and His sacrifice for us. The heavy-handed and legalistic emphasis on sexual-purity-at-all-costs left a legacy of emotional and spiritual devastation in its wake that follows many even into adulthood.

This book takes a vulnerable look at these issues through the eyes of someone who experienced it firsthand. It seeks to identify what purity culture got wrong and bring peace to the hearts of those whom it has wounded so deeply, by exposing the truth: It is Christ who makes us pure.

If this is content you can get behind, please consider joining me in launching this book here in approximately two weeks. I have already filled my beta reader slots, but what I would like to do is give you an early copy of the book so you can read it beforehand and then review it on sites like Goodreads and Amazon. I would absolutely LOVE some help sharing and promoting as well. If you know a blogging or podcast personality that may be interested in reviewing my book, please share this with them! Hit that reblog button or share on your favorite social media.  This is my first book launch and I need the support of like-minded community behind me.

Any questions, just ask! You can email me at if you would like to get involved, or leave me a comment.

How To Have An Induction Without Pain Medication

This is a topic that I don’t discuss often. I tend to shy away from discussing how I gave birth because I find that childbirth and, really, parenting in general, is turned in to a competition in our society. Some women think they are superior for breastfeeding, or having a “natural birth” or what have you. Even non-parent members of society can fall prey to these types of attitudes, leveling their expectations of pregnancy, childbirth, and parenting at unsuspecting, emotionally vulnerable mothers. I refuse to participate in the “my horse is bigger than your horse” comparison game that many women play, which lends itself to being silent on how I gave birth.

In this case, I chose to break my silence speak up in hopes of offering support and encouragement. This is my story on how I had an emergency induction without an epidural or stadol. I hope it can encourage a few of my friends (and readers) who are nearing the end stages of their pregnancies and want to be prepared for the possibility of having an induction.

I had an emergency induction out of necessity. I know this situation can be scary, especially if you were expecting to have an uneventful birth, but emergency inductions don’t have to be a bad thing. I was induced for several different medical problems that I had throughout my pregnancy…

How To Have An Induction Without Pain Medication

What I Did Today – Mommy and Son Date

5 Ways To Stop A Baby From Twiddling


Mental Health Stigma

Why I Talk About Taboo Topics

How I Deal With Kidney Stones

I got kidney stones when I was pregnant with my son. After dealing with 8 weeks of mystery pain and several ER trips, they doctors finally decided to do an ultrasound on my kidneys. They found five 3-5mm kidney stones (bilateral), two on one side and three on the other. They passed before I gave birth without lithotripsy, but then returned a few times since, seemingly due to different foods.

I detail my journey more here:

How To Deal With Kidney Stones

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