Toxic Masculinity is a Red Herring, and the Economics of Sex

I brought my husband Thomas back on to roast some sacred cow steaks on the hot coals of our passion for truth. We discuss the double-headed red-herring of feminism and toxic masculinity (caught off the coast of Chernobyl, if reports are to be believed), the need for a revival of a Christian approach to marriage (alternative: a post-Chernobyl society), and why the courtship solution to the sexual revolution failed miserably (hint: it’s about economics).

Join us for a take-no-prisoners conversation where we earn our “Tell It Like It Is” merit badges. To the easily triggered: turn back now.

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Interview with Joshua Harris

Josh and I sat down to have a conversation about the documentary I Survived I Kissed Dating Goodbye and topics surrounding his journey reevaluating his book. Here are some of the things we discussed:

The influence Adam and Eve after the Pill by Mary Eberstadt had on our journeys.

The context of the world for sexual norms and Christian values, both when his book was written and now.

I Survived I Kissed Dating Goodbye and Director Jessica, who was the driving force behind the project.

Societal relationships between men and women and how/why Josh views women the way he does now.

Suppression of reality and how that impacts sexuality and spirituality and the ability to deal with our own issues as a Church and community.

The realities of how tribalism and fame influence public figures.

Our plans for the future with projects and business.

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Links mentioned:

Josh’s website where you can see his statement about I Kissed Dating Goodbye:

The free link to the documentary I Survived I Kissed Dating Goodbye:

Josh’s Instagram where you can keep up with some of what he is doing with his new business:

His new business, Clear and Loud:

The Violent Take Paradise by Force

My husband’s latest:

“In this episode, Tom uses the recent Ben Shapiro/Tucker Carlson exchange on the wisdom of stifling technological progress (read: bowing out of the arms race) as a springboard to revisit the dual concepts of power and paradise.” 

Hot, Holy & Humorous – An Interview with J Parker

In this interview with J Parker from Hot, Holy & Humorous, Rebecca and J discuss Gnosticism, Christianity and sex, the concept of sexual incompatibility, how children impact marriage, Christian content creation, and much more.

J’s wisdom is edifying in so many ways, I hope that you will find it as enriching as I did and do. – Rebecca

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You can find J at her website, @HotHolyHumorous, and

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On Apologetics and Genetics

My husband and I sat down and recorded a discussion on how we predict the discipline of apologetics will change in the coming years out of necessity due to new scientific research on the human genome.

What’s the best diet?

My husband, the dietician, answers the question of what the best diet is: 

Examining Emily Joy and #ChurchToo

Valuable commentary by my husband examining with discernment the recent ViW podcast episode with #churchtoo founder Emily Joy.


Social Media Fallout From Sexual Assault

In this solo episode, recorded via phone, Rebecca discusses some of the issues that come about from social media fallout of sexual assault. They include:

  • Projection
  • Healthy Boundaries
  • Bullying from other survivors
  • What to do if you have been assaulted
  • How the political aspects of the discussion mirror issues from purity culture

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Fertility and Purity Culture

In this episode, Rebecca discussing the second most important part of a woman’s identity in purity culture: fertility.

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