mental health

Mindset in Marriage – Life After Purity Culture

The Scarlet Virgins Podcast

“Our assumptions and internalized believes about sex can have a negative impact on the intimacy that takes place in marriage, especially when you’ve been raised in legalism or purity culture.

In this episode, Rebecca challenges some of the common mindset problems that disrupt healthy sexuality such as the nasty rumor that women aren’t sexual. She also addresses some of the insecurities that crop up for both sexes, like body imagine issues and previous sexual encounters or assaults.”

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Mental Health Stigma

Why I Talk About Taboo Topics

My Experience With Prenatal Depression

I recorded this video after one of my friends requested it because she is currently suffering from prepartum depression. When I was pregnant, no one told me there was even a term for depression related to pregnancy WHILE you are pregnant. All I ever heard about was postpartum depression.

Some of the factors funneling in to my own experience included a high stress environment at the university I was attending, in addition to several difficult health problems in pregnancy like ICP, Preeclampsia, and Hyperemesis Gravidarum.

If you currently struggle with prepartum (or prenatal) depression, please reach out to a safe person! You can always email me and talk about your feeling or lack of feeling bonded to your baby. Prenatal depression doesn’t make you a bad mom.

Body Image, Bloating & Dieting

Hey y’all!

I had to start a new special diet (on top on my diet for food allergies) recently due to candida. I was a bit nervous about it because of my struggle with anorexia so I wanted to shoot a video to talk through it and explain what is going on in my life with this particular battle front. I’m an open book, and I’m here for you if you struggle too! Any questions, just ask! 🙂

The Most Important Thing I Will Ever Say

In my time of blogging, since August 2015, I’ve said a lot of things. After being reminded of how fragile life really is twice recently, it made me evaluate what is really important to me and look back on my content to see if I was saying what I really wanted to, and I wasn’t. In an entire year and eight months, out of three hundred posts, I’ve had ample opportunity to talk, but I could not find one in which I said exactly what I wanted to say and as much as I wanted to say. Because I was (and am) scared of the consequences. The domain change from my previous website was supposed to help me with that, but my anxiety from the previously anti-Christian crowd I ran in while pregnant still runs high.

I had friends then who believed I was on “their side” with many issues, but then later found out I was Christian. It was not a good situation and it still handicaps me mentally now to have dealt with such vehement anger and rage from people I had done nothing to. The only thing that had changed was that they found out I was Christian.

I have a lot of friends now who view me as a reasonable, maybe even intelligent person. But after this, they might not. And I have a lot of people who don’t like me (around here we call them fans, because they hate you but they can’t take their eyes off your Facebook timeline) think that I am a lot of things that I am not, and after this, they might not.

This video might change the relationships I am in, for better and for worse, but I’m done waiting and twiddling my thumbs in search of the right time and the perfect words. What people think of me is not important, not by a long shot. What is important is what I need to tell you, and it can’t wait.

I don’t care if you love me or hate me, if you read and watch everything I post or this is your first time. No matter who you are, I want you to see this.

My apologies in advance, there is a lot of crying.

How To Help Your Spouse Through Depression

I don’t normally talk about depression (though I do talk about anorexia and NICU PTSD), but after a conversation with my husband last night, we decided this post would be helpful to many and worth writing. And so, here we are.

Here are 5 pieces of advice for helping your spouse through a period of depression!

How To Help Your Spouse Through Depression

No Bones About It: On Femininity and Anorexia


Bones don’t convince anyone of inherent undeniable beauty.

No Bones About It 

You Don’t Look Anorexic

This video is essentially about the problems I have with the phrase “You Don’t Look Anorexic”. I talk about how this is damaging to both women AND men who suffer from eating disorders and body image issues.

See the video here: You Don’t Look Anorexic

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