Body Image

Mindset in Marriage – Life After Purity Culture

The Scarlet Virgins Podcast

“Our assumptions and internalized believes about sex can have a negative impact on the intimacy that takes place in marriage, especially when you’ve been raised in legalism or purity culture.

In this episode, Rebecca challenges some of the common mindset problems that disrupt healthy sexuality such as the nasty rumor that women aren’t sexual. She also addresses some of the insecurities that crop up for both sexes, like body imagine issues and previous sexual encounters or assaults.”

Download in iTunes or Listen Online

Please consider support this podcast by downloading, subscribing, rating and/or reviewing it in iTunes!

For more bonus content and to get a copy of Rebecca’s book, “The Scarlet Virgins”, please visit!



“Growing up, Rebecca was taught that modesty was a woman’s issue. She was told that men were visual and didn’t possess self-control, so it was the duty of her and her female friends to keep their male companions on the straight and narrow.

After leaving modesty and purity culture, Rebecca was introduced to the idea that women play no part in loving their male neighbors through their wardrobe. This rhetoric left her thinking: Am I my brother’s keeper?

In this episode, she recounts her experiences with both of these schools of thought and offers her Christ-focused approach as an alternative.”

Click here to listen: Download this episode in iTunes


Please consider subscribing, rating, and reviewing as well!

Thank you,

Purity Culture With Scarlet Virgins Author Rebecca Lemke

Please go check out my interview on purity culture with Drew Sheldon! We discussed a lot of the aspect of my spiritual journey that are not included in my upcoming book, The Scarlet Virgins. Content includes sexual abuse, suicide attempt, anorexia, etc.

Download in iTunes: Purity Culture With Scarlet Virgins Author Rebecca Lemke

Listen in SoundCloud: Purity Culture With Scarlet Virgins Author Rebecca Lemke


Straight White Man Seeks Knowledge

What does a 40-something non-religious man have to learn from a 21-year-old Christian about Purity Culture. Plenty. And those things can certainly be used to understand the broader American culture.

For more on Rebecca’s forthcoming book, go to the Scarlet Virgins website.

View original post

Body Image, Bloating & Dieting

Hey y’all!

I had to start a new special diet (on top on my diet for food allergies) recently due to candida. I was a bit nervous about it because of my struggle with anorexia so I wanted to shoot a video to talk through it and explain what is going on in my life with this particular battle front. I’m an open book, and I’m here for you if you struggle too! Any questions, just ask! 🙂

No Bones About It: On Femininity and Anorexia


Bones don’t convince anyone of inherent undeniable beauty.

No Bones About It 

You Don’t Look Anorexic

This video is essentially about the problems I have with the phrase “You Don’t Look Anorexic”. I talk about how this is damaging to both women AND men who suffer from eating disorders and body image issues.

See the video here: You Don’t Look Anorexic

Managing Anorexia

In this video, I wanted to lay out the things that are helping me managing my anorexia currently and just talk about where I am at with it now.

My Unanswered Prayer

When I was young, I lost almost all of my social circles and friends in a very abrupt and traumatic way. I didn’t get the same amount of socialization as most children to begin with because I was homeschooled, but these sudden events cut me off from everything and everyone I knew except for my family and church. I was very close to many of the people I lost during that time, and losing them wounded me deeply.

For a long while, I refused to accept that my status quo had changed. I fought to be reunited, not knowing if I would ever see any of my friends again. Without going into too much detail, I sank into one of the deepest depressions I’d ever been in.

Not only had I lost healthy, regular social interaction with people my age, but I had to cope with some very traumatic events that had accompanied it and the loss of the future I had hoped for. I held myself back, physically and emotionally stunting myself to try to preserve some semblance of everything that had been right before the world fell in around me.

My hope was that, if I could keep myself the same (physically via anorexia) as I had been when I had been separated from the people I loved, maybe it would bring that time back for us. Maybe I could remind us all of a time in which household drama and mental health problems hadn’t taken over our lives. It wasn’t logical, but not many things in my world were at that point.

Read More: My Unanswered Prayer

Mamo, Me, and Psalm 100:3

I named my grandma “Mamo” when I was two. The way my parents tell it, I called her up on the phone and started addressing her as such from that day on. My sister and cousins followed suit.

When my twin and I were little, she’d watch us while my parents were gone. She had a drawer full of candy that we tag teamed to wiggle open as toddlers. There was always  fruit roll ups, huge lollipops and Ritz crackers for us to eat.

We went out to her house every Sunday after church. She cooked mashed potatoes and gravy for us and also kept cans of black olives for us to stick on our fingers and run around the house before eating.

Mamo gave us different types of candy that we used for medicine to play doctor (the innocent kind) with upstairs in my aunt’s room with her stethoscope. We had play syringes, thermometers and other instruments we’d occasionally insist on using on her.

When I was older, she’d come play outside with us. We’d sit on a blanket and eat baloney and mayonnaise sandwiches and play with puzzles. Sometimes she’d bring her extra wrist watch out with us and time me as I raced to and from the grain bin. She was still able to walk then and sometimes she’d race with me.

Read more…

Blog at

Up ↑