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Mindset in Marriage – Life After Purity Culture

The Scarlet Virgins Podcast

“Our assumptions and internalized believes about sex can have a negative impact on the intimacy that takes place in marriage, especially when you’ve been raised in legalism or purity culture.

In this episode, Rebecca challenges some of the common mindset problems that disrupt healthy sexuality such as the nasty rumor that women aren’t sexual. She also addresses some of the insecurities that crop up for both sexes, like body imagine issues and previous sexual encounters or assaults.”

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For more bonus content and to get a copy of Rebecca’s book, “The Scarlet Virgins”, please visit!

Singleness and Relationships

“The vocations of singleness and marriage are ones that can be mishandled by the modern Christian church. Imbalance has come about in thinking about and discussing both vocations, often due to misrepresentation, twisting of scripture, and a lack of empathy.

In this episode, Rebecca discusses the importance of viewing the vocations of this life through a holistic mindset and not being caught up in counting the quantity of people in any given vocation.”

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“Growing up, Rebecca was taught that modesty was a woman’s issue. She was told that men were visual and didn’t possess self-control, so it was the duty of her and her female friends to keep their male companions on the straight and narrow.

After leaving modesty and purity culture, Rebecca was introduced to the idea that women play no part in loving their male neighbors through their wardrobe. This rhetoric left her thinking: Am I my brother’s keeper?

In this episode, she recounts her experiences with both of these schools of thought and offers her Christ-focused approach as an alternative.”

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The Scarlet Virgins Podcast!

Hi lovely readers!

I am so pleased to announce that the podcasts we were planning to release on the 27th are already done and processed, so we are surprising you with an early release! ❤

These podcasts are bonus content for my upcoming book, The Scarlet Virgins (the release date for that is the 1st)! This is a book on purity culture, legalism, and spiritual abuse. The premise is that purity is good, but we should not make an idol out of it and it should always point us back to Christ.

Episodes for this podcast include things like “Ladies who Lust”, “Everything wrong with ‘I Kissed Dating Goodbye'”, “Healing Wounds”, “Singleness and Relationships”, “Modesty”, “Mindset in Marriage”, “Pornography and Purity”, “Apostasy in Purity Culture”, and many more!

Here is how you can help:

If you have an iTunes account, please go RIGHT NOW and subscribe and download every episode. (use this link) There are twelve episodes total, but you may only see six until you subscribe. You don’t have to listen to any of them, but this will help me out tremendously.

Why? Because if enough people do this, I can get in New and Noteworthy (which I will stay in for anywhere between 2-8 weeks) and raise more awareness for the book! 🙂

If you’d like to go the extra mile, please listen to an episode or two and then rate and review the podcast.

Thank you so much everyone! I couldn’t ask for a better support system. ❤


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Purity Culture Interview Part 2 With Challenging Opinions

My book, The Scarlet Virgins will be published soon. You can look for it on the 31st of May or the 1st of June on the Scarlet Virgins website. This is a podcast interview with Challenging Opinions on the problems with the purity movement, especially after marriage. You can find other podcasts on the subject here.

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The Scarlet Virgins: When Sex Replaces Salvation

If you are a blogger, podcast producer, or content creator and would like to interview Rebecca on her new book on purity culture, The Scarlet Virgins, please send inquiries to

Purity Culture With Scarlet Virgins Author Rebecca Lemke

Please go check out my interview on purity culture with Drew Sheldon! We discussed a lot of the aspect of my spiritual journey that are not included in my upcoming book, The Scarlet Virgins. Content includes sexual abuse, suicide attempt, anorexia, etc.

Download in iTunes: Purity Culture With Scarlet Virgins Author Rebecca Lemke

Listen in SoundCloud: Purity Culture With Scarlet Virgins Author Rebecca Lemke


Straight White Man Seeks Knowledge

What does a 40-something non-religious man have to learn from a 21-year-old Christian about Purity Culture. Plenty. And those things can certainly be used to understand the broader American culture.

For more on Rebecca’s forthcoming book, go to the Scarlet Virgins website.

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Purity Culture Interview With Challenging Opinions

Good morning everyone!
The interview I did with Challenging Opinions on purity culture is now live. My husband woke me up rather excitedly to tell me it was awesome, so there is that. 😉

In all seriousness, my host was absolutely phenomenal with the questions he asked, some of which were a little tricky. I invite everyone to listen below! Part two will be available next week on Monday.

Listen Here!

The Scarlet Virgins Book Cover and Website Unveiling

The Scarlet Virgins: When Sex Replaces Salvation

I am thrilled to announce that the website to accompany my upcoming book (The Scarlet Virgins) is now live through the tremendous and dedicated efforts of my wonderful husband, Thomas Lemke. The link can be found here: The Scarlet Virgins

On the website, you can expect to find five podcast episodes meant to supplement my book (with more to come on the 27th). One podcast that I think homeschooling parents and youth would be interested in is “Everything Wrong With I Kissed Dating Goodbye”, just as an example.

You can find the synopsis of the book on the “about” page and if you are so inclined, you can book me to come speak at your church or Christian school on the topics listed on the speaking page.

The most important feature of the website is the little button on the front page that says “Buy Here”. Because the book has not yet launched (we are looking at the 31st of May or the 1st of June as a release date), you can sign up for the Scarlet Virgins email list to be notified so you don’t miss it when it is released by clicking that button.

Oh, and lest I forget, today is also the official release date for the book cover! ❤
The Scarlet Virgins Book Cover

Happy mother’s day to all the mothers out there, including my amazing, supportive and patient mother.

Join The Scarlet Virgins Launch Team!

Hey there!

I’ve been a little quiet recently and there is a reason for that. My book, The Scarlet Virgins, has been taking most of my time with shaping, editing, and booking podcasts to raise awareness for the topics I discuss.

Now the time has come for me to get my booty in gear and set up a launch team for the book and I need you! Want to know what it is about? Here is the synopsis:

“Spit-in water.”

“De-petaled flower.”

“A chewed up piece of gum.”

These cringe-worthy phrases from Christian purity culture engrained themselves in the minds of the impressionable youth of my generation. Fearing the destruction of their children’s bodies and souls as the world around them became caught up in pushing a progressive sexual agenda, our parents and thought leaders rose up and sought to fight back against the lewdness and promiscuity surrounding us.

Unfortunately, their approach was entangled with fear and pain, going so far as to criminalize all forms of affection. This bore fruit of unprecedented physical, mental, and spiritual consequences as our worth and identity were found in what we did and didn’t do sexually, not in Christ and His sacrifice for us. The heavy-handed and legalistic emphasis on sexual-purity-at-all-costs left a legacy of emotional and spiritual devastation in its wake that follows many even into adulthood.

This book takes a vulnerable look at these issues through the eyes of someone who experienced it firsthand. It seeks to identify what purity culture got wrong and bring peace to the hearts of those whom it has wounded so deeply, by exposing the truth: It is Christ who makes us pure.

If this is content you can get behind, please consider joining me in launching this book here in approximately two weeks. I have already filled my beta reader slots, but what I would like to do is give you an early copy of the book so you can read it beforehand and then review it on sites like Goodreads and Amazon. I would absolutely LOVE some help sharing and promoting as well. If you know a blogging or podcast personality that may be interested in reviewing my book, please share this with them! Hit that reblog button or share on your favorite social media.  This is my first book launch and I need the support of like-minded community behind me.

Any questions, just ask! You can email me at if you would like to get involved, or leave me a comment.

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