Behind The Scenes of The Scarlet Virgins

Mary J Moerbe’s Review of The Scarlet Virgins

An LCMS Lutheran lady’s review of my book on purity culture, The Scarlet Virgins! Read the review here Buy the audiobook, digital, or physical here Get a signed copy by emailing me here:

How Nadia’s Vagina Statue Perpetuates the Problems With Purity Culture

My latest for The Federalist:

Making a statue of a vagina out of purity rings might be attention-grabbing and even perhaps cathartic, but it is not healing.

My Coverage of the Southern Baptist Convention Sex Abuse Scandal

My coverage of the SBC sex abuse scandal:

Flash Sale – The Scarlet Virgins

A bookstore that sold my book just went out of business. That means I have a few physical copies I can autograph for folks that want that. I only have a few and I’ll be selling these at a discount: $9.99.

If you want one, let me know.¬†ūüėäYou can email me at with your order.


“Spit-in water.”

“De-petaled flower.”

“A chewed piece of gum.”¬†

The youth of my generation know these phrases by heart.

These were the labels placed on you if you didn’t follow The Rules.

The Rules were these:

Don’t wear anything that could cause your male friends to stumble. Scratch that, don’t wear anything but denim skirts and long-sleeve shirts, even when at the pool.

Don’t touch before you get married. No kissing, no hugging, no hand-holding.

Don’t have a crush. If you have a crush on someone before you’re married, you cannot give your husband your whole heart. You’ll have an emotional STD that will infect your marriage! You should really just marry your first crush.

Don’t have problems. Good Christians don’t have problems.

Don’t ask questions. Good Christians don’t do that, either.

Don’t fight back. If a man hurts you, then you led him on and deserved it.

Don’t. Don’t. Don’t.

As long as we followed The Rules, everything was supposed to be great.

And everything was great. Until it wasn’t.

They wanted to safeguard our sexuality. Instead, they broke it.

They wanted us to be spotless before God. Instead, they drove us away from Him.

The Scarlet Virgins is a memoir of one woman’s journey through the Christian Purity Movement. It wrestles with the experiences and temptations of her and her peers, including the temptation of apostasy, addiction, alcoholism, anorexia, depression, self-harm, and suicide. The author seeks to restore the truth to broken souls: It is Christ who makes us pure.

My Latest for The Federalist: Healing From Purity Culture

My latest article for The Federalist is out: Healing From Purity Culture Without Rebounding to Something Worse

Interview with Joshua Harris

Josh and I sat down to have a conversation about the documentary I Survived I Kissed Dating Goodbye and topics surrounding his journey reevaluating his book. Here are some of the things we discussed:

The influence Adam and Eve after the Pill by Mary Eberstadt had on our journeys.

The context of the world for sexual norms and Christian values, both when his book was written and now.

I Survived I Kissed Dating Goodbye and Director Jessica, who was the driving force behind the project.

Societal relationships between men and women and how/why Josh views women the way he does now.

Suppression of reality and how that impacts sexuality and spirituality and the ability to deal with our own issues as a Church and community.

The realities of how tribalism and fame influence public figures.

Our plans for the future with projects and business.

Listen Online

Links mentioned:

Josh’s website where you can see his statement about I Kissed Dating Goodbye:¬†

The free link to the documentary I Survived I Kissed Dating Goodbye:

Josh’s Instagram where you can keep up with some of what he is doing with his new business:¬†

His new business, Clear and Loud:

Hot, Holy & Humorous – An Interview with J Parker

In this interview with J Parker from Hot, Holy & Humorous, Rebecca and J discuss Gnosticism, Christianity and sex, the concept of sexual incompatibility, how children impact marriage, Christian content creation, and much more.

J’s wisdom is edifying in so many ways, I hope that you will find it as enriching as I did and do.¬†– Rebecca

Articles/books mentioned:

You can find J at her website, @HotHolyHumorous, and

Listen online: 

I Appeared In I Survived I Kissed Dating Goodbye

After several months of sitting on the news, I can finally announce on the release date of the film that I appeared in the documentary I Survived I Kissed Dating Goodbye!

The film can be viewed here:

My appearance is around the 50 minute mark.

As I caution I will say I do not endorse the views of everyone who participated in the film. My own views can be found in my book, The Scarlet Virgins (physical, digital, and audio versions are available).

I am proud to call Joshua a friend and am thrilled to see his commitment to integrity as a Christian thought leader, would that others would follow in his footsteps.

A big thank you to the team that worked on this film, please continue to pray for them as it is received by the public.

Examining Emily Joy and #ChurchToo

Valuable commentary by my husband examining with discernment the recent ViW podcast episode with #churchtoo founder Emily Joy.


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