Author of and 2015 Best Performance of the Year Winner @ thepublicblogger. Published on the Huffington Post and Homeschoolers Anonymous. Young Christian, Mother and Wife.

Missed Flights and Bili Lights

My little family and I were supposed to board a plane to California awhile back, but we missed the flight. We did end up making it to California in December though, for a podcast recording or two and live show.

I don’t want to get into details but we were all pretty broken up about it. Part of the issue was that we had to double back to try to find my son’s birth certificate. Between missing the flight, the season change, and the stress of digging through medical papers from birth, that day was pretty dark for me.

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Live Show Recorded in California

In early December, our family was flown out to California for me to speak about purity culture at the Virtue in the Wasteland Christmas Party in addition to recording a podcast with them which you can find here. It was an amazing trip and I miss California and the folks from Legacy 1517 and ViW so much.

Here is the live recording of the show, I hope you enjoy the whole show.

Virtue In The Wasteland Christmas Party

Discernment in Recovery Groups

The Scarlet Virgins Episode #26 – Discernment in Recovery Groups

For folks who are recovering from childhood abuses (legalism, physical abuse, cults, etc), recovery groups seem like a good resource for recovery. But are some recovery groups worse for you than the thing you were originally recovering from (or at least compounding the trauma)? Kicking wounded people while they are down?

In this podcast episode of The Scarlet Virgins, Rebecca shares her thoughts on why we need to use discernment when it comes to these kinds of communities.

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Thank you so much to The Neighborhood for this award!

The Neighborhood

The Neighborhood Alumni

“There are times when ‘thank you’ is not quite enough.”
– Kendall F. Person, The Neighborhood Creator


It’s A Beautiful Day
by Lola Gets


On behalf of The Neighborhood, inclusive of the artists, the voting committees, the chairs and the audience, it gives me great pleasure to introduce the….

2017 The Neighborhood Award
Recipients  of  ‘OUR HIGHEST HONOR’

Our Highest Honor Rebecca Lemke, Lahoma OK * Jamal Marvelle, Indianapolis IN  Kelly Lewis, Los Angeles CA

They are such different people, from very different parts of a randomly confused United States. Each represents different demographics, that until last night when sweet home Alabama became the adult in the room, halting a cliff divide by a leary nation, perhaps not these three, but others like them may have taken it all the way. The trio walked in at separate times, all wanting to give something of themselves and needing to receive…

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What My Toddler’s Tantrum Taught Me About Scarcity and Abuse

“Get up.” I instructed, quite tersely, for the millionth time. My son and I stood outside the local post office in a battle of the wills. He wanted to go to “Nana’s house” while I simply wanted to accomplish a quick, easy errand.

From the moment we received the pink slip in the mail, I knew that the trip to retrieve the package was going to be hellish. Something about the post office sets my son off like nothing else. It could be the cranky employees who are known for being rude and mistreating customers, it could be the fact that his little internal sensor recognizes we parked in a thirty minute parking space (the time of which he was quickly taking up with his shenanigans), or perhaps he could sense my paper-thin patience wearing out. Whatever the reason, he was acting up something fierce…

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Interview with the author of the book “Sexy” – Dr. Jeff Mallinson

Scarlet Virgins Podcast Episode #25 – Interview with the author of “Sexy” – Dr. Jeff Mallinson

In this episode, recorded live in California at Professor Mallinson’s home, Rebecca interviews the author of the book “Sexy” about finding erotic virtue in perplexing times.

Among the things discussed: the “sin of Onan,” Prostitution, Sexual Assault, Victim Blaming, Hollywood, and Christian Sexual Ethics.

I think you guys are really going to love this interview with Jeff! If you’d like to hear more from him check out his work on, and look up his book “Sexy” on Amazon.

Listen Online here at the bottom of the page or by going to The Scarlet Virgins Podcast in iTunes (subscribers will already be notified of this episode being released, but it may take a few hours for it to show in iTunes – I apologize for the inconvenience.

Virtue in The Wasteland Interview

I am so thankful to have been flown out to California for the Virtue in The Wasteland Christmas Party and Family Reunion.  While there, I was interviewed live at the party and also recorded two podcasts. Here is the first one where both Jeff and Dan interviewed me about my book, the current sexual scandals, and my thoughts on the hashtag #churchtoo.

You can listen online here.


The Basics of Sexual Pleasure

My latest: The Basics of Sexual Pleasure

No Touch Courtship

No-Touch courtship is a concept that is very popular in Conservative homeschooling circles. It has been made popular by famous families like the Duggars and glamorized to a certain degree that it may not deserve.

In this podcast episode of The Scarlet Virgins, Rebecca discusses the pros and cons of no-touch courtship.

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