Author of and 2015 Best Performance of the Year Winner @ thepublicblogger. Published on the Huffington Post and Homeschoolers Anonymous. Young Christian, Mother and Wife.

How To Get Used To Sex When You’ve Been Raised To Be Ashamed

We are not the lies we were taught. We are not the mistakes we’ve made. We are not the sexual dysfunction we experience. We are children of the Living God.

How To Get Used To Sex When You’ve Been Raised To Be Ashamed

My first fiction book!

I’m so excited to share my latest project with all of you! 🙂 It is a short story that I wrote called The Shadow Queen. We tried to keep the cost low so you can buy it for $0.99 cents on Amazon right now! My husband and I will be working on getting it up on Apple books and Nook for those who prefer to buy it there. Here is the synopsis:

Most curses, we are told, are broken with true love’s kiss.

But for Abigail, newly crowned queen of the realm, true love’s kiss is where the problems begin. Once the curse descends, the journey to restore her true form pits Abigail and her new husband, Luke, against daunting terrain, mighty beasts, and impossible odds.

This is a story of love and honor, heroics and valor, presented in true fairy tale style.

Video Interview With Ambitious Christian Women

Identity Crisis

What Girls Notice About Guys

Revelations Podcast Interview

I’m super excited to have been interviewed on Revelations! Interview details:

Rebecca unveils the journey of anorexia and pregnancy difficulty. She also talked about how Jesus was the biggest factor in overcoming obstacles through becoming an author and blogger. Rebecca also reveals:

— Her need to blog about motherhood

— Her Huffington Post article about a Black man in college

— The role The Purity Culture has impacted sex in Christianity

— The powerful love story with her husband

Listen here or in iTunes

Why I Backed I Survived I Kissed Dating Goodbye

Joshua Harris is a popular name in the circles I grew up in, namely Conservative homeschooling ones. He has recently been making some serious waves on social media because he is rethinking his famous book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye. His book is one that many of my friends and their parents read, whether by genuine interest or due to coercion. I didn’t read his book until I was writing my own book evaluating the dangers of purity culture, but the things he promoted were certainly a part of my childhood, for better or worse.

Many of my friends and family know that I have critiqued Harris’ book and at one point directed anger towards him (which was misplaced I now feel), so it has come as a surprise to many that I have financially supported the Kickstarter campaign meant to fund a documentary he is a part of called I Survived I Kissed Dating Goodbye.

Something that has bothered me as I have worked through my own experience with purity culture, insofar as his book was involved, is that I was presented with two options: his book as inspired (essentially just an extension of the bible), or his book as a work of religious indoctrination and evil. These two options presented also lead into either hero-worship or hatred of the man himself. I thought I had to choose one of these options, because that was all that was ever presented to me.Then I spoke to Joshua Harris himself on Twitter. I decided on a whim that it was a long time in coming and that I was done with letting other people decide how my relationships, whether romantic or otherwise, would go. I was done with passive aggressive internet discussions in which everyone wanted to talk and no one wanted to listen. I tried to find out who Joshua Harris was then and who he is now. I believe people change and get wiser, and I think that Joshua’s very public life has been both a burden and a blessing, but also something that God can reveal His love and grace through.

While I do believe in culpability and that many of the things said in I Kissed Dating Goodbye were damaging, I also believe in forgiveness and grace. For the first time when I actually spoke to him, I saw him not as some evil author out to make a profit on innocent children, but as a fallen man and, more importantly, a Child of God, just as we all are.

Many people are up in arms in support of, against, or in skepticism of the film due to their own experience with Harris’ book. There can be no denying the project has hit a nerve in bringing up the past, a past that many would sooner forget. There are many concerns people have had with the documentary (rest assured, Harris is not profiting from the film), but from the very first moment I heard of it and confirmed that the makers were Christian, I knew that I would #BackTheConversation with I Survived I Kissed Dating Goodbye.

I think that the documentary is a step in the right direction towards a healthier conversation about sex, relationships, and legalism in Christian circles. I do not expect the film to be the end-all-be-all of rectifying what has happened in the past, and I do not think it should be or even could be no matter what is said or done. It is my hope that, in helping to fund this documentary, it can bring hurting Christians together so that we may heal together, forgive, confess our sins, and rejoice in the love and forgiveness Christ gave us in his death and resurrection.

If you would like to learn more about the film, you can watch the Kickstarter video or see the backer options (as of this writing, there are 6 days left to back it).

No matter if you choose to monetarily support it or not, please pray for all of those involved. I truly believe that the beautiful people involved in the production of this film need to be wrapped up in our prayers as they have been and will continue to face the uglier sides of humanity during this project.


Rebecca Lemke

Why I Backed I Survived I Kissed Dating Goodbye


Relationship Advice

The Nature of Love

There is something they never tell you

About the nature of love

Perhaps it is divine

Or sent from above

Most embrace the mystery

Laughing joyfully as they go

But some resist temptation

And fight to keep control

Not all understand this

But those who do will know

The more you deny the feeling

The stronger it will grow


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