Mindset in Marriage – Life After Purity Culture

The Scarlet Virgins Podcast

“Our assumptions and internalized believes about sex can have a negative impact on the intimacy that takes place in marriage, especially when you’ve been raised in legalism or purity culture.

In this episode, Rebecca challenges some of the common mindset problems that disrupt healthy sexuality such as the nasty rumor that women aren’t sexual. She also addresses some of the insecurities that crop up for both sexes, like body imagine issues and previous sexual encounters or assaults.”

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For more bonus content and to get a copy of Rebecca’s book, “The Scarlet Virgins”, please visit!

Singleness and Relationships

“The vocations of singleness and marriage are ones that can be mishandled by the modern Christian church. Imbalance has come about in thinking about and discussing both vocations, often due to misrepresentation, twisting of scripture, and a lack of empathy.

In this episode, Rebecca discusses the importance of viewing the vocations of this life through a holistic mindset and not being caught up in counting the quantity of people in any given vocation.”

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“Growing up, Rebecca was taught that modesty was a woman’s issue. She was told that men were visual and didn’t possess self-control, so it was the duty of her and her female friends to keep their male companions on the straight and narrow.

After leaving modesty and purity culture, Rebecca was introduced to the idea that women play no part in loving their male neighbors through their wardrobe. This rhetoric left her thinking: Am I my brother’s keeper?

In this episode, she recounts her experiences with both of these schools of thought and offers her Christ-focused approach as an alternative.”

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Share the Link Of Your Favorite Blogger!

Dream Big, Dream Often

share_logoTom Slatin sent me a great idea via Twitter and I am going to do something a little different while on vacation. Here is the basic idea for this link share post:

  • I want you to leave a link to the blog which you love the most (not your own page!)
  • Reblog this post to help spread the love.
  • Leave a brief description of the page you love and why you love it!

This should be a ton of fun and is a great way to selflessly help another blogger.

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The Scarlet Virgins Podcast!

Hi lovely readers!

I am so pleased to announce that the podcasts we were planning to release on the 27th are already done and processed, so we are surprising you with an early release! ❤

These podcasts are bonus content for my upcoming book, The Scarlet Virgins (the release date for that is the 1st)! This is a book on purity culture, legalism, and spiritual abuse. The premise is that purity is good, but we should not make an idol out of it and it should always point us back to Christ.

Episodes for this podcast include things like “Ladies who Lust”, “Everything wrong with ‘I Kissed Dating Goodbye'”, “Healing Wounds”, “Singleness and Relationships”, “Modesty”, “Mindset in Marriage”, “Pornography and Purity”, “Apostasy in Purity Culture”, and many more!

Here is how you can help:

If you have an iTunes account, please go RIGHT NOW and subscribe and download every episode. (use this link) There are twelve episodes total, but you may only see six until you subscribe. You don’t have to listen to any of them, but this will help me out tremendously.

Why? Because if enough people do this, I can get in New and Noteworthy (which I will stay in for anywhere between 2-8 weeks) and raise more awareness for the book! 🙂

If you’d like to go the extra mile, please listen to an episode or two and then rate and review the podcast.

Thank you so much everyone! I couldn’t ask for a better support system. ❤


The Scarlet Virgins Podcast

Purity Culture Interview Part 2 With Challenging Opinions

My book, The Scarlet Virgins will be published soon. You can look for it on the 31st of May or the 1st of June on the Scarlet Virgins website. This is a podcast interview with Challenging Opinions on the problems with the purity movement, especially after marriage. You can find other podcasts on the subject here.

Download my second Challenging Opinions interview in iTunes 

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The Scarlet Virgins: When Sex Replaces Salvation

If you are a blogger, podcast producer, or content creator and would like to interview Rebecca on her new book on purity culture, The Scarlet Virgins, please send inquiries to

Purity Culture With Scarlet Virgins Author Rebecca Lemke

Please go check out my interview on purity culture with Drew Sheldon! We discussed a lot of the aspect of my spiritual journey that are not included in my upcoming book, The Scarlet Virgins. Content includes sexual abuse, suicide attempt, anorexia, etc.

Download in iTunes: Purity Culture With Scarlet Virgins Author Rebecca Lemke

Listen in SoundCloud: Purity Culture With Scarlet Virgins Author Rebecca Lemke


Straight White Man Seeks Knowledge

What does a 40-something non-religious man have to learn from a 21-year-old Christian about Purity Culture. Plenty. And those things can certainly be used to understand the broader American culture.

For more on Rebecca’s forthcoming book, go to the Scarlet Virgins website.

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Go join this awesome link-up!

It’s the Meet and Greet weekend everyone!! Strap on your party shoes and join the fun! Ok so here are the rules: Leave a link to your page or post in the comments of this post. Reblog this post. It helps you, it helps me, it helps everyone! Edit your reblog post and […]

via Meet and Greet: 5/20/17 — Dream Big, Dream Often

How To Maintain Health Communication

Here is my latest article for Anne Cohen on 5 Ways To Keep Healthy Communication in Relationships!

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